Ground-Truthing: Family Growth Thought Experiment 3.2.2
If a family wants to encourage moral Growth in the children, what would the adults in that family need to do to provide examples?
Think of specific actions and also unconscious behaviors or attitudes in adults that would encourage love of life, encourage love of others and living things, and encourage responsible independence and freedom.
Think of specific actions and also unconscious behaviors or attitudes in adults that would discourage fascination with non-life (death, force, violence, mechanism), discourage obsessive self-centeredness, and discourage irresponsibility or extreme dependence on others.
Clearly the “authoritative parent” is most likely to both be an example of moral Growth and also have a child who exhibits many of the characteristics of Growth, especially those connected to independence. This child is also likely to accept the processes of life and the frustrations of making an effort as well as to understand equity and reciprocity in relationships.
Without Words We Cannot Think
“authoritarian”: believing in, relating to, or characterized by unquestioning obedience to authority, as that of a dictator, rather than individual freedom of judgment and action; a person who advocates, practices, or enforces such absolute obedience.
“authoritarian parenting”: the parent is emotionally aloof; bossy and likely to say, “because I said so”; uses physical punishment or verbal insults, including psychological and emotional punishments; dismisses the child’s feelings – so the child is more likely to be moody and anxious; well-behaved; an average to good student; a follower. (See #42)
“authoritative”: having or showing authority based on competence; reliable because coming from one who is an expert or properly qualified.
“authoritative parenting”: the parent is affectionate and engaged; sets limits and enforces consequences; uses reason, logic, and appropriate negotiation; and empowers the child’s decision-making – so the child is more likely to be happy, responsible, and kind; good at problem-solving; self-motivated and confident; cooperative; an excellent student; a leader. (See #42)